How does (or did-- just trying to include everyone here!) your husband relate to you going to therapy? How much do you include him in what's going on with T?

I ask because I realized that as close as my husband and I are, he really had no idea what I do in therapy. I had mentioned to him, a couple of weeks ago, that I was very angry at my T. I told him how I wrote nasty things about T in my journal, and how T wanted me to read them to him. My husband got kind of weird about the whole thing. He really didn't understand why I would get so mad at a therapist. Then my husband told me that he tries to 'distance' himself from a lot of what goes on with my problems and my therapy. I was very hurt because although I consider my relationship with T to be something very special, something that is between me and him, but I would like my husband to understand a little bit of the relationship, and what goes on in therapy.

Soooo (sorry if this is a novel, rather than a question), 2 weeks ago, I came home from therapy on a Friday and my husband was suddenly very open to knowing what is going with therapy. It was wonderful-- I explained about transference with T, object relations theory in reference to my own mother and why I believe I got f***ed up. Most of all, I explained to my husbad why it's really important to me that he understand some of this stuff. He told me that sometimes he just can't deal with the intensity of what I want to talk about-- that sometimes he comes home from a stressful day of work and he just wants to zone out-- then I come home and want to discuss my primitive defense mechanisms, lol. This is understandable. I told him that I wish he would have let me know this before-- that way I would know when to bring things up, and when not to. Ever since this conversation, things have been better. We talk more about the therapeutic process, he even asks questions about therapy/psychoanalysis in general. Of course, I get really excited when he shows an interest becuase this because it's what I'm going to school for-- so I like that he takes an interest. Because I'm not just talking about it from a client's point of view, but from a T's point of view as well.

There are, of course, things about therapy that I would never tell him. I think he knows about my attachment to T, but he has no idea how strong it is. But I am comfortable with that. I don't consider it something that he should know. There are parts of the therapeutic relationship that he should know about, and parts that he should not.