pink - Thanks for posting this thread. I think it will be interesting to hear other's experiences. In my situation, my husband was going to individual therapy first (2+ years), then we decided to go to couples (1 year) and now I am also in individual (5 mo). So he knew more about therapy than I did. But, I think the pattern my husband and I have is that if we know the other has been to individual therapy then we'll ask how it went and leave it up to the other person to determine how much to reveal about an individual session. Like you, some things I just want to keep private.

"Then my husband told me that he tries to 'distance' himself from a lot of what goes on with my problems and my therapy."

When I first started going to individual therapy my husband said something like that too. Not so much distance, but that I need to work through my issues. It was kind of hurtful and helpful at the same time. I know my husband is there for me, but it is true that I need to find my own way through some of the issues and only I, with the help of my T, can do that. I struggle a lot with how much to tell my husband.

One thing that is funny, is that in a way being able to talk about and joke about our T's is something my husband and I can share and can bring us closer. We'll talk about our T's mannerisms and how they phrase things and wonder about their personal lives (we always joke what it'd be like to have a T as a parent).