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Originally Posted by (JD)
Sorry, but if it would be helpful for the spouse to know, then the spouse should be in therapy with you, or the T should plan a joint session and the T can share---
Too many times I've seen where the spouse was part of the problem and only took the information to later use against the patient (even to divorce proceedings!)
If it helped in some relationships, that's good to hear.
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i guess maybe because it's dbt it helpse? idk. my H has never used anything against me and encourages me to go. he admits that he feels a little bit of jealousy but that it's about him and not me and he knows that i need this. he only ever asks 'how did therapy go' and let's me decide what i'll say.
so i feel very safe and i guess i always have.
if it matters, i did find that as i practiced skills (i did/do dbt) my h responded to that. it broke down some walls we had built because of my depression and his inability to work with it. i would say five years after therapy, my marriage is way better than when i started.
but every marriage is different and it can be hard to navigate. i don't think someone *has* to share, but i do think that certain things can be helpful (but without the jargon).