Am sure this sort of thing has been covered, but I'm brand new on here.

Short story for now: Husband & I had quite an open marriage, but have been monogamous for past couple of years. While travelling recently, he developed an obvious connection with a woman, nothing happened, but I felt very rejected for the first time ever & told him. He assured me that nothing had/would happen & that although they are FB friends, it was nothing flirty.

One day I saw his FB open & couldn't resist a sneak peak.....their messages came across as flirty to me & she even put at the start ''I don't normally fall for married guys''

Since then I'm obsessed with checking his messages (which I'm always horrifically guilty for) and they have settled down somewhat, no sexting etc, but pretty flirty. Now I've noticed messages to another woman he met while travelling too....they are also very flirty.

We're currently apart for 6 weeks while I spend time with my family as my Grandarents are not well and I'm obviously missing him. But this all started WAY before me moving a few 1000 miles away!

Any advice?? I don't understand where my jealousy/lack of trust has come from.