Why would it matter if it gets upset .. So what .. he certainly isnt showing you any respect with this drama fest of lies... Why in the world would you put up with this ? If he is not working and your paying all the bills .. What are you getting out of this relationship ? there is no open communication that I can see.. What is the appeal to stay with a man that behaves this way? You are spending so much time snooping on him yet you dont want to confront him ?

Maybe you could find a therapist and they can help you navigate this mess .

I wish you the best.