Diana: Sorry about your predicament and even sorrier for the kids who are being injured in that sad, broken relationship.
IMO, the kids always get hurt the most when their UNMARRIED parents fall out of love.
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We had been together for over 8 years and had two children together and currently are expecting another one that was planned.
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Not to be judgmental or harsh, but, did you ever consider getting married so that your kids, at least, would have their legal rights protected? As a guy, I believe we don't consider the rights of our offspring but it seems like their mother would since she, not him, will loose the most when the BF decides to
move on to greener pastures.
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He says he still has feelings for me and is still very physically attracted to me but just wants space and to live life single and free.
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That's a typical guy attitude! He just wants the sex with no strings attached and so long as he is JUST the BF, he actually is
FREE all the while!
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He knows that I love and care for him deeply so why is he doing this to me?
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BECAUSE HE CAN!
Since there is NO marriage certificate, to secure your children's RIGHTS, he can do whatever he wants, at any time he wants.
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If he didn't want a family then he never should of had kids with me.
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He's just the
BF! His behavior towards you demonstrated that he was just USING you for sex - not to create a family. He might have finally become: bored, scared, angry, sad or any number of "reasons" to dump his kids and you for GREENER PASTURES. Maybe there are laws to FORCE him to support the children that he produced and is now damaging. It might turn out that loosing him is the best thing that ever happened to your kids and you, but please get a marriage certificate with the next BF that you hook up with.
Good luck,
jim