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Originally Posted by lilodian4ever
Yeah, I see your perspective and understand your frustration completely. I guess, sometimes, it's hard to express or convey the whole story on a forum like this, so maybe readers don't get the complete picture. Then, their responses may aggravate our frustration.
Anyway, about those people, yeah, they sound absolutely evil. You mentioned running into them at a wedding. Do you live in a small town where it's hard to escape them ?
If I were in your shoes, I think I'd do what ifst5 suggested ... just try to be superficially nice, even though you're cursing them under your breath. I know it sounds lame, but I've learned through my own bitter experience that diplomacy does work well in such situations, and the best part of it is that YOU don't get stressed. If you have done nothing to create animosity, the other person has no right to mistreat you, and you end up becoming the good guy and the other guy is exposed as the bad guy.
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Thanks again. Yes, I'm sure my frustration with the entire situation comes across very clearly.
It's very unlikely that I will run into either of them, as they live about 45 minutes away... and we have only 1 or 2 mutual friends. The mutual friend who got married is living in South America and just came home for the wedding.
It's funny that I didn't even think about the possibility that this problem couple might be at the wedding until the morning of the wedding. and then we got to the church and found that he was the master of ceremonies...
At least it didn't last all that long. We were at the local fair having a good time, about 1 1/2 hrs after we first entered the church.
I basically just refused to shake his hand.... and then just grinned and bore it. Until I could start this thread, anyway.
The most offensive thing is just the toying that is going on. The attitude of nah, nah, we got the better of you, and you can't do anything about it... The continual games and manipulations... the continued toying even after we left the church... I'm glad to be rid of them..
I did talk to my T and my wife about it at length. And my T had some good insights.
I think I have some pretty good resources and a good plan in case I should have to deal with this couple, or people like them in the future... and that is what is most important.