<font color="red"> WARNING!!! WARNING!!! WARNING!!! - Straight forward Sex Talk... do NOT read it it might harm YOU. </font>

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I agree with Perna.... for we often learn (teach) our mind and body how or what to react with during sexual orgasm - plus I speak from personal experience for I too went thru this problem a while back and I had to abstain from pleasuring myself for many many many months in order to let my body reprograms its self and see my husband as my goal for sexual sharing / pleasure again.

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Dr. Douglas Weiss has spoken on this form of addiction and how it can often lead to problems with a real person (if and when) we use manual masturbation instead of a person for our sexual pleasure..... he explains this happens due to the fact that our bodies were made to connect mentally and visually with that which see and believe to be our sexual pleasure at the moment of orgasm.... this is referred to as SEX GLUE.

.... Dr Weiss goes on to tell of a man that always masturbated with his cow-boy boots on and generally was looking down when he climaxed, therefore, his mind & eyes had placed the boots in his sexual mind as his object of pleasure and he could not make love with a real person without having his boots on or he would not have an orgasm. - this man had to re-train his brain.

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An article I put in my own words..... on SEX GLUE (written for a males pov, but used for females as well)

<font color="blue"> YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THE SIGNIFICANCE OF THE BRAIN TO YOUR SEXUALITY. </font>

Changes occur in the male physical body during the sexual act that not only changes its physical appearance, but also affects it physiologically in many ways when a man is being sexual. FACT – to be a sexually successful man, you must have a sexually successful brain. Typically what a man thinks about and focuses on is what he ends up doing.

While all the case studies confirm that men spend a lot of time thinking about sex many times throughout the day, we must ask the question why so many men are not having sexual success. One reason is because of the manner in which men are thinking about sex. Another reason is the men’s brains have actually been trained about sex. This faulty thinking and training hinders the sexual success that men could experience. The good news is that there is an answer for these problems. It is possible to create a sexually successful brain.

<font color="blue"> WHAT IS SEX GLUE? </font>

When a man ejaculates his brain receives its maximum chemical reward (more powerful than any illegal street drug). Critical to a man’s sexual success is understanding that whatever he looks at while having an ejaculation is what he will sexually connect or “glue” to.

Whatever his eyes focus on when he sexually releases - - - a person, image, object, will become etched in his brain as a photographic attachment toward that person, image or object. <font color="blue"> This called “SEX GLUE”.
</font> So after a period of time of having sex with the same person, when he sees her, he is going to feel attached to her.

Hence the reason why lights should always be on during lovemaking and eyes wide open – make the eye contact to insure mental bonding of the two.

(This process is true for both men and women during sex)

<font color="blue"> A true fact: </font>

Men will emotionally and sexually become glued to what ever it is that he views through the eyes during his sexual release, even that of a once youthful, beautiful and slender wife that has now put on little weight and is changing with old father time. Not to mention what happens to the body after giving birth to a few of his children (smiles).