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Divorce is one of the most painful and life changing events a person will ever go through. I'm doing the best I can, which I am the first to acknowledge often seems pathetic in its slowness and functionality. But I'm still trying. I am glad for the empathy of my T.

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Sunrise - This is so true. I too will not go into the details of my marriage here, but I really feel your pain in your post and wishing the best for you in your decision making. It made me feel better to hear that you are also working through nuts and bolts type issues and it is functional sometimes rather than emotional discovery (though one can lead to the other). Maybe this is something unique to marriage/relationship issues because there are two people involved and so there is a need to make decisions at times and communicate those decisions to others. That's what I feel anyhow. Sometimes in therapy I'd like to continue to just discuss my feelings, but there are somethings that have to be decided and communicated to my husband and that has to be taken care of as well as my own mental health. I'm really impressed with how you have thought through different scenarios and are forming a plan with your T. I think that is a great way to go about it.