My 1st marriage FAILED because we were NEVER best or even good friends - not even friends, as I later discovered.

How do you start out as good, loving, respectful, happy friends and end up as such bitter enemies or bored “room mates”? Where did you go wrong or was it all your partner’s fault? When did things start going down hill after the “blissful” honey moon? Did you go to counseling but it didn’t help? Were you convinced that you knew how to make things work BUT your partner did not? Did you finally just give up when neither of you could find a solution to what started out so beautifully and then mysteriously turned so SOUR?

In most relationship posts, I notice how people somehow LOOSE the love and friendship that they started out with and I wonder why they don’t see that it all went "into the ditch" because they simply did NOT KNOW HOW to remain friends.

My current wife and I seriously decided to make our relationship work after leaving our sad and miserable previous marriages, so we began studying the teachings Barbara DeAgelis: (Barbara De Angelis PH.D. - Official Barbara DeAngelis Website)

In support groups, I had discovered that I never actually knew what a best friend is nor how to be one so I studied the subject and realized that my 1st wife and I had NEVER been friends so my current wife and I decided to be best friends right from the start and NEVER let that fade or die. Once we learned how to be best friends forever (no matter what) it set the stage for a happy, beautiful & loving relationship which is as good after 22 years as it was at the start – maybe even better – thanks to the easy, simple relationship skills and tips that we got from Barbara so all I can say is that, if you want your failing marriage to go back to the loving way it began, try out some of the things that Barbara and many other relationship teachers can teach you. Learning and using good relationship skills is the only way other than some kind of Spiritual Awakening to change your unfriendly relationship back to constant FRIENDSHIP.
Questions?
good luck regaining the love and respect that you once had for each other,
jim