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Old Aug 22, 2014, 04:24 PM
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Hi Flours,
You do not need to answer these questions, please sorry if I am being harsh

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um, the bullying happened during several years starting early in my life. so I think I learned that other people despise me because I am disgusting.
I am interested to know that you think that you are disgusting. I mean, if you see a person like you (with your physical and spiritual characteristics) would you think that person is disgusting? Yes or no, and why (do not answer if you do not like )

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I got rid of that idea when I got older. now I am experiencing a situation that reminds me of that. I lost all my confidence because I have no real job and my skills aren't valuable to society.
My question is: would it be more accurate saying that your skill are less valuable to society than others (for example, Economics or Administration) instead of not valuable at all?

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I learn again that nobody wants me.
Is it nobody or nobody you would like they liked you? I mean, when I was much younger I used to feel a lot of frustration because I have romantic or friendship targets that would not even look at me. But later I had to acknowledge that I was also refusing or ignoring people that were appealing to me. I was being selective, and chose the wrong people, I guess. I saw there were plenty of lonely souls out of there that were needed of support and love. I was ignoring them as other people ignored me. I am not saying this is your case. But I wonder

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friends don't want to meet me any more. and it's been 8 years since I last was with a boyfriend. so everything tells me again other people despise me.
I do not have comments, I do not know your former boyfriend or former friends but to me it is imposible to believe in blunt statements like "other people despise me"(being other people the universe of people in the world. My brain says there is something wrong in that statement, unless you were a perfect jerk, but even that, because I know perfect jerks that have devotees and you are a lovable person.
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Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out. Vaclav Havel
Thanks for this!
flours