Don't blame yourself, being inlove (and a host of of other things) has a tendency to make some of us stupid as a rock.

With me, the abuse started off so subtly, and gradually increased so slowly that yes, I was making excuses for him too.

He choked me unconscious 3 times (each time a year apart) so that it was "easy", for me to excuse and write off.

The day when he mistook me for a punching bag is when the lights came on in my head. But even then, I didn't have the full picture.

Only months later, I learned on this very website just how many different types of abusive he had been over the years, the scales fell from my eyes completely when I realized he had been a "master abuser" all along and that I had been roped in and groomed over the years with him to accept his behaviour...

Please don't continue his pattern of blaming and shaming you for everything that goes wrong. Break free from this vicious cycle!