An update: Spoke with the guy today about all of this and what I thought. He told me that everytime he brings something up that he needs/wants, she goes into a tantrum and pulls the "maybe I should just kill myself". He said he now knows, she knows that will stop in him his tracks, do the "poor dear, what can I do to make you feel better". She's got him pegged. He's really fearful though because there is mental problems in her family that she may do it.