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Originally Posted by ozzy1313
My husband and I were into the swinging lifestyle for a little less than a year. We had fun and it had no negative effects on our marriage- but we were partners in this decision. Looking back I now think this was part of a long manic episode for me- the high I got from drinking and partying with these people and the texting etc made me ultra "high" and revved up and then all of a sudden I was over the whole thing and couldn't imagine doing it again.
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WOW....someone else in a similar position to my husband and I! It's been hard for me to find people who have enjoyed the swinging lifestyle, but then left. You say you were all of a sudden over the whole thing....was your husband over it at the same time? Do you ever miss it?
Coming back to the main post:
I think an outsider suggesting an open marriage (for one of you) is extremely bizarre given your situation. My Husband and I are voracious in our sexuality & yes, we are enough for each other, but a little extra never hurt while we BOTH agreed to it. We always made sure before an 'evening out' that the other was happy and most of the time we were together during our 'fun'. Afterwards we would talk about our experiences and then have the most amazing times together.
IMO no two marriages are the same. What works for some, doesn't work for others, but as long as the channels of communication are open and each side is happy....then there's nothing wrong with a slightly 'alternative' lifestyle. It's not cheating until secrecy is involved.