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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
While I'm no particular fan of your T, I think she is actually being more generous than a lot of Ts would be in responding twice to an e-mail that you sent between sessions, when you see her twice a week-- and she hasn't been paid to see you for months. Many Ts will not read/respond to e-mail at all. Doing therapy in person really is more effective. Not to mention that Ts need a little free time-- if they have to read/respond to e-mail every day, after a full day of seeing clients, and they don't get paid for it-- it can be a lot of added work and stress.
Is asking your T to go "above and beyond" for you (e-mails, ten extra minutes, etc) really a way of asking her to "prove" that she cares about you? Do you think if she does X or Y, then that will allow you to believe that she likes you and wants to see you? There isn't really any reason why she needs to respond to the e-mail (it really deserves an in person conversation, and youre going to see her Monday) and you don't really need ten extra minutes (your sessions are often filled with lots of silence and difficulty finding things to say to each other). So, at least from the outside, it seems like maybe your requests are really a way to get her to do something to prove that she WANTS to see you and cares about you?
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lol I pay for everything down to the penny, trust and believe that. I pay $20 a week for email, actually
(I can send her three and I get one reply on Fridays. If my e-mails come after Friday she reads them but I get no response.) I didn't send any e-mail this week though, until the letter I gave her, if that can be considered an e-mail.
The thursday session was a long one-25 extra minutes that I paid $50 for, on top of what insurance paid for the 45 minutes. She doesn't do anything for free.
What I gave her was a handwritten letter yesterday a few hours after session. I had wanted an e-mail reply (for the $20 fee) but I guess she decided it was too loaded and best discussed in person
(or maybe it made her mad and she wants to terminate me--my mind is going crazy with the possibilities.)
She also said she signed a contract with my insurance this past week as well so they are finally going to be paying her. She said that they didn't want to pay her before bc the contract wasn't signed yet so they didn't have any incentive to do so, but now they will.
The reason for extra ten minutes is she wanted to go over (listen to ) some of my recordings in session, and I don't really want to use up ten-twenty or more minutes of session time listening to old sessions. So she'll have to listen on her own time or take my word that she said what she claims not to have said (namely that she never said/meant she was forced to see me bc I filed a grievance, even though that's exactly what she said.)