If I was in this situation, I'd have to just come out point blank and let the guy know I liked him.

Before Brian, I had a huge crush on someone and we hung out all the time etc. I didn't say anything, partly out of fear and partly because he's in his first year of sobriety, so I was being respectful. Everyone thought we were close to dating; everyone thought he liked me.

When it came out that he didn't, and started dating another girl, I was crushed. Since I just assumed because of the way he was acting, it broke my heart.

The next guy I hung out with, I ended up point blank telling him I was interested in him before I got the wrong impression. He told me he was flattered but only saw me as a friend. I wasn't heartbroken like I was with the first one, since I came out and made it clear what I would like before I started telling myself things in my own mind.

Thats when I made the post here about feeling like one of the guys, and then Brian asked me out, completely unexpected.

So....whats the harm in saying something like, "You know, I really like you..." then the ball is in his court, and you'll know, instead of wondering. Its a hard leap to take, but worth it for your sanity. At least thats been my experience.