Since my current partner and I started dating a few months ago, I have been having some trust and insecurity issues that have really taken a toll on our relationship. I've been in a handful of relationships (mostly long term) and was cheated on in every single one of them. Because of this, I'm really unsure if the feelings that I am feeling are legit or if I am overreacting and need to calm down. After all, we are all human and although we would like that picture perfect fairy tale, we often have to learn to settle for less. Rather than get too far into all of the issues I have been feeling/having towards him. I will keep it down to the current one which is a sexual issue intended for this forum. A few nights ago in a random discussion he told me he sometimes imagines other women during sex. Before me he was a virgin and frequented strip joints. He was always the guy women denied and I figured if of anyone he would understand the feeling of not feeling wanted or good enough. I feel hurt and disgusted. I have spent all of this time feeling as though we were bonding during these intimate moments, but instead I feel like a warm lump of flesh that he would use and close his eyes and fantasize about "the dream woman." The type of girls men wish they could have intimately. I feel empty. I feel like nothing. And although this guy has other good qualities, I don't know how to recover from this and ever be able to feel intimate with him sexually again. Is this normal behavior for men?