I've always been there for my brother when he was in trouble with drinking and the law. I was even best person at his wedding.

When I first had a major breakdown 4.5 years ago he was kind of there and because I wasn't working I would make dinner to take around to him and his wife once a week and I tried to make an effort with his wife by trying to organise exercise sessions but she would just not go and not even tell me. I started feeling my brothers negativity bringing me down so I stopped making effort to see them. When I stopped I never heard from them. I've been going through some really **** times like more work bullying, drinking problem, lost my license for 2 years drink driving, my dog has cancer. I know we all have problems but I would have thought I would have heard from him. He has now just started messaging to see if I need any shopping done as my parents are away so I have no way to get to the shops.

I'm in a really bad place again and my parents don't know as I wanted them to go away and have fun and not worry about me. My long winded question is, do I let my brother back in? I don't need his lift to the shops and in my current state of mind I don't feel like being with a stranger which is what he is now. I feel so sad and angry at the same time. I just want him to acknowledge he hasn't been there for me and say sorry but I don't have the strength to tell him that. I'm sick of being the bigger person in these situations.