There's actually been quite a bit of research done on what people fantasize about before, during, after and between sex.

It's perfectly normal for both men and women to have some outrageous sexual fantasies that they'd never really want to come true. In fact, some women have to be taught to engage in hot sexual fantasies in order for them to orgasm.

The problem here is not your bf's fantasies during sex, it's that he told you about them. Maybe because he's inexperienced around women and doesn't realize that women who feel even a little insecure don't want to hear about fantasies that don't include her, or sometimes ones that do include her.

At least he trusted you enough to share something intensely private and personal. That's really a good sign, it means you're a fabulous trust-inspiring girlfriend. Please down get all scowley over it! It's in no way an insult to your attractiveness or desirableness.

In my opinion, a person's head space during sex really deserves to be completely private unless both members of the couple are knowledgeable, secure, non-jealous and adventurous enough to share each other's fantasies without negative repercussions.

Please forgive him for being human and for being too inexperienced to know it was not a good idea to talk about such things.

Now, listen, this is the good part. You get to have any kind of sexual fantasies you want, too, including things you wouldn't do in a million years. Just don't tell him about it. Don't think about the grocery list or the laundry. Train yourself to have lustful thoughts during sex and your body will enjoy it very much. It doesn't mean you love him less or cherish him less or think less of him.

My husband and I both have our little fantasies. We don't tell each other about them. It really is a no-fault area. Your BF is normal and it in no way says anything bad about you.

Now, give that boy a hug and tell him it's all okay.