Enjoy "your" day... You already know the answer to your question. Conformation is what you're looking for and from me you have it. I shut the door on my mother 8 years ago and to this day it was the best thing I ever could have done for myself and my family. Some people just aren't programed to play by societies morals. LoL... said by a nut job. Best of luck to you and your hubby to be.