Kala:
All I can tell you is what I did. I put in a lot of time and effort on Self Esteem work and attended a lot of support group meetings where I learned 1000s of coping skills and self help things. Doing some Spiritual explorations has helped as well so now I am a much stronger and independent person than when I fearfully and desperately entered Recovery long ago.
good luck becoming a strong and independent person,
jim