What about counseling just for you? This sounds like a really draining situation for all of you. I can see how constantly asking someone if everything is okay and trying to assign some sort of interpretation on each small action they take would make someone miserable. It would be good if you could get to the root of whatever is causing that to stop doing it.

If you have only been together for a year and already have been off/on, that doesn't bode too well for this relationship. Sometimes we can't be with people even if we love them a lot.