I'll be honest and say I stopped about halfway through your post.

You can be whatever you want to be. There will be consequences and you may not like all of those consequences.

This is true of whatever "way" you choose to be. It is true of everyone and his or her choices.

If I understood what all you wrote before I had to stop reading, you want to do what you want and you want people (or to be more specific, the people you interact with) to respect your choices.

I can tell you that some will respect you, and some will not. You cannot force the ones who do not agree with your choices to agree; however, you can move on.

I've seen men, and women, come onto PC and talk about their -- for lack of a better word -- beingness (specifically their manhood or womanhood) and how they feel forced by society to conform and how they do not want to conform.

Don't conform if you do not want to. By being your authentic self, you will draw others who think as you do.

Now on to harsh realities. The reality is some lifestyle choices can have more unpleasant consequences than others. Choosing a life of crime, for example; or choosing a life of fame; extremes lead to extremes.

If you want to be free to have sex with more than one person, you will find some people do not want that and your best bet is not to pursue such people. You will find others who share your desire.

I don't view this as you being "forced to be something you are not." I view this as the consequence of your choices. By being honest and unapologetic about what you desire for your own life, you will most quickly find yourself among the people who share your desires. I hope this helps.