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I say my decision because he has made it clear as far as he is concerned it is exactly that my decision he tells me he's 50/50 as to whether it is appropriate for us to become parents, but when he told me his views led me to believe that if I do choose motherhood I will be dealing with a lot of things on my own and when things get hard (which I know they will, I'm not naive) his attitude is likely to be you made your bed lie in it !