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Old Aug 24, 2014, 07:21 PM
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So strange, but the guy actually responded back later that night that he'd like to go for a hike over the weekend (on Saturday) and invited me up his way. I was supposed to be doing some volunteer work the next morning, so he said for me to call him when I was done. Exactly as I said I would and ready to confirm plans, I called. He doesn't pick up the phone. About 20 minutes later, he just sends a text "Hanging with my daughter this afternoon. Will ring you later." No apology, no discussion about a different time or date...just a unilateral statement....

Now, I totally get that kids are a priority. But, at some point earlier in the day, he must have known his plans would change. I just don't understand why he didn't call or text to let me know. Had he let me know earlier, I could have made other plans with friends for the afternoon. So, I don't respond. I figured (1) he's with his daughter, and I don't want to interrupt, (2) nothing in what he wrote required a response and (3) I assumed it was a gentle way of just blowing me off and I wouldn't hear from him again so why not maintain a little bit of dignity.

But, about two hours later...he's texting me while he's with his daughter at her driver's license permit test. Nope, still has never picked up the phone and actually called me. Basically, just killing time while they wait. And, nothing about getting together later that evening or even the next day (today). So, I finally just said "Hey, I'm sure your daughter will pass the test...hope she does well. Gotta go grab a shower, have a great day."

And nothing more after that. So weird to me. If he'd never contacted me after the date, I would have assumed that he just wasn't interested. But, I don't really understand texing, making plans, blowing them off, then texting more. At age 46...what grown man acts this way? Am I naive or is this just they way the dating world works?

Is it possible to be remain optimistic while having this happen over and over ....or is it better to just be skeptical and risk turning bitter? I toggle between the two and don't know how to stay hopeful but protect myself at the same time. I've dated older, younger, similar background, different background...the only common denominator is me, so I assume I'm doing something wrong...but just can't figure it out.