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maybe this functions as something of a self-fulfilling prophecy where one is caught in a cycle of 'better than i feel happy... worse than now i feel unhappy' etc etc...

guys can be easier to hang with because they are more likely to go out of their way to be kind... incase something might possibly will eventuate... whereas with women... potential competition...

maybe partly because... well... i guess their aren't many married women in the world who spend the majority of their time with male friends (i wonder why)?

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Interesting thoughts - thank you.

a) I actually just think that kind of happens. It's when you walk into a party you don't know that many people and the girls just give you an up and down. I am sure I do it to chicks too sometimes. Yes, competition.

b) I think your comment about men being nice because they might be in with a chance is quite sad. I certainly don't think that's the case all the time. I must admit I've always had my HMAs (Hot Male Accessories),. but that's just a running joke - it describes a lot of my boy friends, they are cool, sociable, awesome, lovely people who are good to also take out when you're single and need a partner or date or simply go out to dinner and be spoiled with attention if you so need.

c) I will not go out with someone who is insecure with my male friends. I tend to remind any such offender than actually, I was friends with that person before I even knew they existed on the planet, so they'd better get used to it or I'll seem them later. I cannot stand people who cut friends off just because they are in a relationship If I wanted a relationship with the friend, surely I would have taken advantage of the opportunity by now ...

Hmmm I like hearing others' thoughts...