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Originally Posted by JustShakey
Yeah, I get this. I felt judged by my previous (female) T because of my reluctance to be emotional. She put me under a lot of pressure to open up with my emotions but it had the effect of shutting me down even more. It is harder to discuss some things with a male T, but I find him to be more accepting of who I am. I know it's just my issues speaking, but I usually feel like other women expect me to be like them and they don't get why I'm not.
Your T is not going to be disrespectful of your emotions, but he may well be more patient with you than a female T would.
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I can't stand when people try to make me feel like I'm supposed to feel a certain way in a particular circumstance. It just makes me shut down as well. Like if someone tells me that only people without hearts don't cry during a certain movie, I probably won't get emotional during it because of the pressure to be emotional or be judged haha.
Anyway, yes, that is basically how I feel too. Males seem to be better for most of my needs, but there are some things that are really uncomfortable to discuss with a male too. So basically, I need both lol. I know what you mean about feeling like females expect you to become like them. My last female therapist was always trying to convince me to pursue certain career paths, and my male therapist is more like, "What do YOU want to do?"