That is how I first started with my husband. Letters. I couldn't stand to talk to him face to face. I felt like I was going to get hit or something. Don't take that wrong, my hubby has never laid a finger on me. It just feels that way. Like if I say something something real bad is going to happen. I can write about it though. It isn't the best way, you are right, because sometimes the "tone" isn't picked up correctly. Then it is a big mess. But I had to communicate and so I wrote another letter explaining the last one and so on until I was able to talk to him personally. I had to do it in session the first few times. We had a great counselor who helped me be heard and help hubby learn how to hear.
Carrie

<font color=blue>The important thing is this: to be able at any momeent to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.--Charles Du Bos