Thanks so much for your post, Lemon. What you wrote is exactly what I am going through. I do often feel torn in therapy between wanting to focus on feelings, past trauma, dreams, attachment, etc. and the reality of my marriage and all the directed problem solving that involves. I know when I first went to see my T, I was unable to even engage for 5 minutes with him on the subject of my marriage. Now 6 months later we are able to talk a whole session about it and plan for the future. When I compare now to then, I see I have made progress. But I still have a ways to go. Thanks again.