No, I would definitely not reach out to my roommate. She is a sweet girl, but very much a kid and I would not hit her with something like this. My long established friends are close by and I can't even bring myself to tell them. They'll just feel sorry for me, so I don't want them to know. They've been witness to all my bereavement, sickness, poverty, fighting with my real mother, etc of the last five years, when they have had a more conventional life of a successful person in their twenties with good jobs/ getting engaged/ travelling the world, so they just think I'm a tragic loser anyway. I can't give them any more crap to back that up.