I'm so sorry for your losses, herethennow.

It gets better. Then it comes back. Some of it is in your control, some of it not. Knowing someone close to you is burning bridges and holding grudges and ruining their own life without realizing it... and that all your efforts to help them seem pointless....

Comes and goes, my friends, comes and goes. Best you can do is hold on tight and ride it out.

sigh.