IRL, everyone has to pay for their sessions, termination session or regular session. Yes, she has offered you a termination session and has told you that you have to pay. That is a reasonable request on her part. Even termination isn't free, as painful as a termination session can be . . . The reality of the relationship we all have with our therapists is that it is a professional one and that means either insurance pays or we pay. It's not for free unless offered by the therapist and in this day and age, that offer doesn't come very often!

I get that. I can hear you thrashing around frantically trying to get the response you want from her and she isn't giving it to you. You have to decide if you want to continue to try to force the issue or walk away. In a way, you're in the power position (if you allow yourself to see it that way). She's giving you the power to do the walking away if you don't like how the relationship has turned out. You have three choices: 1) You can stay and continue to try and get things to return to the way they were or how you want them to be, 2) You can try and work things out and find a new connection to your therapist, or 3) You can thank her for her professional time, ask for a referral list and then leave. Personally, I've never found that I've been able to force someone to engage in a relationship on my terms only, and it seems like the two of you are trying to do this to each other. Not surprisingly, neither of you are getting anything positive or constructive out of this approach!