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Originally Posted by PeeJay
Oh dear. She really should not have made that tire-slashing joke to begin with, nor should she have implied that you were the client most likely to do such a thing!
She might have been freaked out by your note, but she started the joke and you were just continuing a joke that she started.
...Like, you wrote that note to draw closer to her to keep the joke going, and then the opposite happened: She pulled away.
So basically, she was afraid of you for a time and to let you know that writing such a note was not OK, she banned you for three sessions, which triggered strong abandonment fears in you. Is that what seems to have happened?
Has she calmed down now?
Was her punishment to cancel your next three sessions? How would that have solved anything?
Sometimes, when there is a rupture, it might be worth it in session to go back to the point of rupture and heal it from where it started. Have you two talked about the note and her canceling of sessions?
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heres the note. this caused a MAJOR monumental rupture but it happened last year..june 17 I think. We have been struggling to get over it since then. Its not really working. I think if it had just been that it would have been different, but I had mon/wed 8pm sessions ever since I first started seeing her, and after the note she took away my monday 8pm telling me she had another client who needed it and would use it better than I did, and she hoped that we would be able to find a different time for me (even tho the week before we had discussed how she had no other availability that matched mine) and her doing that was just too much for me, and she didnt give it back until november 2013 (after taking it in august 2013) and I spent those months being squeezed in here and there. the three sessions that were canceled after the note-one was me- i showed up at the office and she saw me but i refused to go inside. she got mad and canceled my next weeks sessions saying she had to consult her colleagues, all of whom told her to get rid of me bc i threatened her.