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Old Aug 25, 2014, 04:24 PM
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Well for one once someone reaches the age of 18 they are legally an adult, so continuing to treat them like a 'child' usually is not something that goes over so well and I don't think its really healthy for them. Hence the reason I tend to dislike the term 'adult child' I think a better term for an adult who still lives at home and is not yet self sufficient like having a job and stuff...would be a jobless adult living at home the 'adult child' term just seems a little degrading but then I am in such a situation some could describe me with that so it irritates me.

Now if you are paying the phone and have trouble affording it or would like him to start paying it would make sense to 'cut it off' however trying to do it as punishment probably will not have any desired effect...not to mention it is very hard to get a job if you do not have an active phone, home phones are becoming obsolete....but when he finds a job there would be no reason for you to pay his phone, if he then thinks the bill is too high to pay himself he can always go get himself a cheaper phone, they have pay as you go phones with low rates which I always use.

I mean is this the only instance of this sort of thing recently? And did you ask him why he didn't mow and lie about it? I mean I am 25 and live at home so sometimes my mom wants me to do things to help around the house and sometimes I have forgotten something here or there but...then I do it when she mentions it...so not sure what would drive someone in that sort of situation to lie about having done it but simply not do it. But then my mom also respects that even though I live at home, am on SSI and not working due to mental issues I am still an adult. So of course if she asks me to do stuff its not like 'hey child do this chore because you still live at home so therefore will be treated like you're no older than 15' Its 'hey you are an adult who lives here to so you need to contribute some around the house' which I can respect.
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