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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
Most people with BPD blow things out of proportion and tend to misread facial expressions. Maybe part of the issue isn't completely your T?.
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which is why I've posted entire sessions on here, so I can get other peoples full unbiased opinion based on what REALLY HAPPENED vs what I THINK happened through my unreliable black/white filter.
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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl
Totally get it. It sounds completely non-stressful for either party and potentially very warm and comforting. So if IRL's hugs were like these, then all my comments, as I said, are irrelevant. I thought the hugs were something else.
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yes, the hugs were like these. Back to chest, blanket between us. Very mother comforting child style. Sometimes she'd have one arm around me and the other hand on my forehead or stroking my hair. Now she sits by me and lets me put my head on her shoulder but she doesn't turn into me at all. I assume so I don't come into contact with her soft bits ::shrug:: A few months back I asked why she switched and she said it was bc the holding was "never right to begin with." But did not elaborate on why she felt that, or who told her it wasn't right.
I don't even understand how a front to front hug would work, lol, itd be very awkward! But anyway the blanket folded double was fine by me, but then to use those gigantic couch pillows started making me feel dirty.