honestly, my own opinion is that i'd pull back. for me, though, sex is a Big Deal. i don't know if it is for you (though it sounds like it). you have a lot of things you're coping with right now and introducing this, particularly as a virgin, might be more damaging to you.

i'd focus on finding a female t and maybe try to keep this guy as a friend, but cool the romance a little so you can figure out your emotions and know what you're getting into.