Op, you're confusing sex with love. For some people, the path of sex never crosses the path of love. For some of us who were abused, we never learned that sex was supposed to be "making love". For me, sex has always just been sex. I don't have those supposed chemicals that make you fall in love with someone and bring you closer when you make love to a person. I've never had those chemical love feelings, and I doubt I ever will. (Preliminary studies show that those who have been abused can have issues with producing those "love" chemicals.) But hot damn, on the flip side, its pretty damn easy to get a guy to fall head over heels in love with me after a few good romps! To me, love is purely intellectual, not chemical. Disagree? Go ahead and bash someone who can't feel the same sort of love because she was molested as a child.