Why are you in therapy? That is all that matters. It's your therapy and if you don't like the therapist or what's suggested then now you can do something about that (since you're not so young and impressionable anymore we hope :-)

If you don't believe you are depressed, you must have some reason or something to "show" for that feeling/belief? What do the doctors/therapists say when you express those ideas? Have you ever "connected" with a therapist and felt you were going somewhere that you wanted to go or are you still approaching it like you have no say in how/for what you are treated?

No one else can define you besides yourself. True, you can accept someone else's definition of you but that doesn't make it "you". "Looks like a duck, quacks like a duck" is what others use to help figure out what they themselves are looking at but that doesn't make what they're looking at a duck. I can wear a duck costume and quack but I'm not a duck. Reminds me of when I was telling my T I was "ornery" and she had never heard the word so I had to teach her its meaning, etc. English wasn't her native language so later, when she tried to use the word it came out sounding like "ordinary" and I instantly protested saying, "I'm a lot of things but 'ordinary' isn't one of them" :-)