Hi justatoaster,

I'm really sorry to hear about the tragedies you've experienced. That must be so terribly hard.

I think I'd be annoyed too if people were constantly insisting I take meds and calling me depressed. Whether you want to use medication is entirely your choice! I'd suggest finding a therapist who is a clinical psychologist (not a psychiatrist) as he/she won't prescribe meds (though I can't promise they won't suggest using them). Tell them upfront that you don't think you're suffering from depression but that you need to talk through the traumatic experiences you've had because you can't find closure. I'm sure the right therapist for you is out there somewhere! Check around for websites of therapists in your area or maybe ask for recommendations if you can think of someone who might have that type of information.

Best of luck,
Sidony

P.S. Oops just realized you said you'd seen therapists (not all psychiatrists) and they had suggested meds also. Just start out up-front by saying you only want talk therapy.....