Trigger warning for: self harm content.

Went to group tonight and someone mentioned meeting a person that self harmed. I'm relatively new to the group and (to my knowledge) the only person who regularly self harms (though, it's not really regular these days ).

Anyways, the topic of self harm came up and there was just this general atmosphere of "". I heard:

"Why did she do that?"
"Eww, how can someone do that?"
"Did you ask her why?"
"I could never hurt myself..."
"Oh my gosh, burns?"
"Why do people cut and burn them self?"
"It releases anxiety and stuff!"
"What kind of stuff?"
"Why would you have to cut to do that?"
"I tried once, but it hurt."
"Cutting/burning yourself is a sign to stay away."

I just felt so triggered, and honestly angry and it seemed to go on forever. The group leader asked me later if I was upset by it, and I told her I was. She asked if I wanted to discuss it but I just didn't. I went to the bathroom and did some breathing exercises that T taught me and I really was okay - but I just don't get it. I mean, I understand not having a desire to self harm and even being misinformed on the purpose of doing it. But I don't understand how people can be so judgmental (in tone at least) about it. Like, it honestly made me so angry and defensive. I wanted to be like "IT'S NONE OF YOUR EFFIN BUSINESS WHAT SHE DOES WITH HER BODY" but - the girl chose to show her scars and most importantly her story is not my story - i'm not the face of self harm. Regardless, group sessions are supposed to be a safe place to go to get away from the stigma of mental health. Yes, people are entitled to their own opinions but where is there left to turn when your safe place is no longer safe because you feel the same stigma from your support system?