Dear jndelgado09:
I am sorry about your situation.
I can only share with you what I learned in therapy at CODA, ACOA & Incest Survivors. I learned that folks who were abused or hurt in early childhood will often gravitate to or will attract other, similar ABUSERS as the Victim goes through life for a variety of (theoretical) reasons starting with, the Victim unconsciously looks for similar characteristics in the next Abuser that they meet along the way OR Abusers unconsciously are drawn to victims of early abuse sensing the ideal vulnerabilities in the Victim that attracts Abusers. It was described as a "Meta Message" that both the Victim and the Abuser silently sends out and is picked up by the other character in the Abuser/Victim drama or complex.
When I first learned of this, I was shocked and wondered how the heck I could stop attracting Abusers if I am silently calling out to them. Then, I began to learn how to STOP sending out these unconscious calls by working on my self esteem and other empowering techniques in therapy and began to notice right away that I was gaining some power and confidence and the Abusers soon STOPPED showing up! I attended Codependency and Adult Children of Alcoholics 12 step groups.
good luck finding some peace,
jim