Dear SadMommy,

I was so sad to read your story. What an awful situation. I think you are taking the best possible first step by planning to see a counselor. A good counselor will help you talk through all this stuff and figure out what your options are and what's best for you. Yes, counseling is expensive, but it could be SO worth it -- even if you have to charge the fees for a while, just do that in the short-term so you can get some help. You need a way to deal with this and find your own happiness. If your husband's not willing to work with you (and of course you are both responsible for the relationship!!!) then work on what you can do for yourself first and foremost. Therapy is a fantastic start.

And I agree with the others that you should not contact the woman you think your husband might have been seeing. That just reflects negatively on you, and he's the one you should direct your anger toward!!!

Sidony