ihave been married for 19 years and always coped with my husbands lack of affection up until now. i went through a very bad time this weekend and he called me all the names under the sun, then apologised. all i needed was his care. he shows care in other ways, but i crave affection and love and to be told how he feels about me. i'm so loathe to be another divorce statistic, but i just dont think he'll ever change and i want to be happy and have a healthy sex life. his drive has never been as needy as mine. so much to cope with, leaving, house, car, personal things, i love him but he just doesn't get it.

jin