I agree! Don't blame yourself for your ex's actions. He's a rotten apple and that has nothing to do with you.

Firstly I was self-confident and self-assured when I met my abuser, didn't at all fit the profile described above. My main problem was / is, that I'm a shytti judge of character. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt until I find a dagger in my back or in that case a fist in my face. My current bf is nothing like my ex, they have no common traits except being male.

Secondly, the poster is writing about a user in this thread, not her ex who is an abuser.
So she in actual fact didn't attract the same man twice either... although yes, the 2 aren't mutually exclusive an abuser can be a user too, but not to his victim. The victim is always kept around for as long as possible, not used and discarded instantly...

There are many users out there, sadly the only protection against them really is making them wait. The users will move on fast and the men who are worth your while will stick around and be happy to get to know you before they get to know your anatomy.

I'm sorry this happened to you, and agree that you may want to consider a therapist.

Unfortunately this is a very common thing in today's society the world over, we live and learn I guess.