This sounds super lame but I'm not comfortable in swimsuits, especially 2 pieces. I literally hadn't started puberty the last time I wore swimwear of any kind. I'm not overweight but I am what you'd call "skinny-fat". I don't have a flat stomach or much muscle content, which I'm working on. I just don't feel terribly comfortable with my body unless I reach a threshold of what I consider an acceptable figure. My figure is okay in regular clothes because I know how to flatter myself. I'm usually modest..no cleavage, knee length skirts or longer, shoulders covered. I don't dress like a Duggar but I'm covered...swimwear is just so small and clingy.

Even if I were more comfortable with my figure, I'm not used to showing that much skin. I'm dating someone and I would like to engage in recreation that involves water with him (going to the beach, pools, etc). I don't want to engage in pre-marital sex so I don't know how I feel about being that revealing. I don't want to cause him to think of me "that way" and have nothing come of it. I have a difficult time believing that guys don't think lustful thoughts of girls they are dating and already attracted to (for some reason cause I don't think I'm all that pretty) prancing around practically naked. I haven't told him this would bother me so his response of "oh it's okay you would look hot in a bikini" just makes it worse. So great, now I'm not fat, I'm a lusty temptress. That's worse.

I don't want to be a hinderance on his life and being around water is something I know I would enjoy. I also don't want him to think I'm the typical insecure girl always complaining about herself. I try to keep a stiff upper lip about my insecurities around him because it shouldn't be his problem. How do you get used to the idea of walking around being that skimpy? Even covered swimsuits are very revealing, plus I still want to look flattering and feminine. I think vintage high waisted suits are pretty and a little more modest but that's still not a lot of fabric for me. I just feel like there's not a lot of middle ground here. Should I get over it and just get a string bikini :/