some people, regardless of age, are more comfortable with texting rather than phoning. so, i don't think a lack of a phone call a few days after a date when he is texting is being aloof. it sounds like he's communicating but not in your preferred method. i think it's fine to communicate at that point and tell a potential date you aren't really into texting if that is there primary way of communicating. just to give them a heads up. or, you can request they call. i'd just be low key about it though. "hey, i'm not that into texting but i'd love to chat on the phone when you have time." i do get the sense you may have some definite expectations about how things should be done and if you either ease up on the expectations a bit or at least communicate those expectations & preferences i can see your dating life going smoother.

having said that, i would be annoyed about the day arriving when you were supposed to see him and he just expected you to wait around until he was available. i do find that a bit rude. what you can do in the future is just ask to make firm plans before the day arrives or say why don't we reschedule when you know when you will be free or just ask for a more specific time to call or for him to call you by a specific time. when you responded "have a great day" that does sound like a blow off on your part.

again, just honestly communicate your preferences & expectations--and it's always good to examine our expectations to see if they are realistic. also, next time i'd let him ask you out again for the 2nd date. yes, it's 2014 but some guys still like to be a little in control at least in the early stages.

as for not rushing things watch how much you drink and that should help a lot. just communicate you want to take things slowly. nothing wrong with that. i do think you sound a bit conflicted though as you said you wanted to take things slow and then asked him out. i think if you do actually slow down a little and communicate you'll do fine.