Dear lido78,

First let me say congratulations on putting yourself out there, that took lots of courage after some short term relationships.

If you don't mind, I'll offer some advice/not criticism.

What you see online is not often what you get in real world.

First date, a 2-3 drink minimum otherwise you might say or do something regretful.

Warning, Never go off somewhere like a wooded trail with someone you don't know !

Women at this age seem to get attracted too quickly and focus on one guy and jump into a long term committed relationship. ( understandable, not wanting to be alone )
Men at this age, after a failed marriage with children are gun shy to the above model.
Men have feelings, wants, needs, and desires.

Generally they are casting a wide net and exploring many options, as another poster mentioned you should do the same.

If you really want to know what this guy is all about offer a dangling carrot and see if he jumps for it. By his response you will know if he wants a quick treat or a whole meal.
I say this because he seems imo to not be the right one for you. ( And thats okay. )
But at least you have learned from this experience from other posters who offered amazing advice.

It will take some time and some dates but clearly you know what you want and you will find someone who wants the same. Any long term relationship starts with getting to know someone in person. A friendship, with a physical attraction develops into wanting
a mutual committed companionship/relationship.
In the mean time be happy and remember phone conversation is ideal, if he is interested he will call.
H.

ps, please dont use a dangling carrot/ it is not fair to the other person. I am suggesting it on this one situation, so she may see what this guy is about since there has been so much confusion.