I always say I am fat too and people are really bothered by that...its like get real...im fat...quit trying to hide the fact...I hate when they say im not... I really hate going into stores and try to shop and asking if they have clothes for fat people...they get all bent out of shape...its weird......but I don't get down on my self anymore...it took me several years but I built up my self esteem by looking at my strengths...being fat just happens to be a weakness...I don't dwell on my weaknesses...I celebrate my strengths and they make me feel good. take care.