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Originally Posted by livelaughlove22
She's a very independent little girl and doesn't like being touched, nurtured, held or anything. Her therapist told me ideas for how to get her to attach to me, but they aren't working. She is not a mother, and I was wondering if anyone had any advice from a motherly prospective of what to do here.
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If I were you, I'd first of all try to put my self in the child's place to understand and FEEL what the troubled child is feeling/thinks. Then, I'd go back to the therapist and ask for more ideas for how to get her to attach to me. I am not "motherly" but I would look high and low to come up with some strategies to HELP the child.
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She won't let me make her anything to eat, read to her, put her to sleep or anything.
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If I were you, I would take a hands off approach and patiently allow the child to come to trust and respect me so that she is setting the pace for how our relationship will evolve and get hopefully better. This is how I handled a frightened and nervous young dog that was obviously abused by some man before we took him in off the streets. He was comfortable with my wife (a female) but not with me (a male). He came to love and trust both of us!
good luck,
jim
