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Originally Posted by Leah123
I don't think that's harmful resistance, I think that's healthy self-protection. She's made a massive change to your relationship and you need time to decide it's safe again. I would be very very upset. And I'd be surprised if you were not ambivalent about this.
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The last few sessions I have noticed she's said that I kept asking where the boundaries are and that she ****ed up with that. So she owns her part in the discord.
But sometimes I do feel massively hurt by it. And then other times I genuinely feel pretty cool about it that I can still have her as a valuable guide to help me discover some stuff about myself even if I don't get to be very close to her. Like now - I feel positive that I have a therapist I enjoy seeing, that I will have an interesting chat with at my session, that I feel quite sure will help me meet my career goals over say the next couple of years. But then after the session, I'll probably feel like I'm being emotionally flayed alive
I wish my emotions would commit to one view so I could understand them, they swing around so much on this.